You’ve probably already noticed the red and pink cards at the grocery stores.  Valentines Day is just around the corner, and people are starting to focus on their relationships. In Central Oregon counselor Jane Meyers is doing what she calls the “40 Day Love Challenge”.  The course begins on Valentines Day.  She says there are warning signs to watch for: " There are four love terminators; these are attitudes that are guaranteed to kill your relationship. One o f them is criticism, another is defensiveness; withdrawal and contempt.  And so if you have most of those going for you; you have a pretty much 99% chance that your relationship is going to end.” Meyers says the "antidote" to the love terminators are also attitudes: they are appreciation, respect, curiosity - and responsibility. She was a guest on KBND's “Your Town” Monday.