Ken and Linda Johnson of Bend have been married for almost 40 years. As the leaders of Westside Church in Bend for decades they've helped a lot of struggling couples. Linda Johnson says problems often start with communication breakdowns:  “So often a man and a woman come with so many different backgrounds and sometimes they come with a lot of baggage. It’s like a man and a woman speak two different languages; so much of the time is spent on the wedding, but not on the marriage and they need to learn how to communicate and to listen and to understand each other." Pastor Ken Johnson advises everyone to keep three "couplets" handy: they are: I was wrong, I am sorry and please forgive me. Ken and Linda Johnson were guests last week on 1110 KBND’s “Your Town.”